Sex often means different things to different people.
That’s because our knowledge and thoughts about sex are influenced by so many different things like …
- Our upbringing, religion, and cultural and community values;
- How we first learned about sex;
- The sexual experiences we had when we were younger;
- How sex is shown in movies; and
- The stories of rape and abuse that make the news.
As a result of all of these things, you and your partner may have different ideas about …
- What kind of sex is “good” and what kind of sex is “bad”;
- What kind of sex is “right” and what kind of sex is “wrong”; and
- What kind of sex works for men and what works kind of sex works for women.
These differences can make your sexual relationship difficult, or even a problem. But it does not have to be this way.
Sex with a person you love, trust and respect is really about using your body to show your feelings. That’s why we speak
about making love. It should be a wonderful experience that gives you both pleasure.
It should also be an experience that connects you closely to one another and makes you feel great about being
together. What’s more, your lovemaking should make you feel great about yourself.
