Scene from "Secrets and Lies," a short film in which both the husband and wife cheat on each other
Can you ever completely affair-proof your marriage? Can you say with 100% certainty that neither you nor your spouse would ever have an affair?
“If you really think there is no chance of this, you may be deluding yourself,” says Ilse Terblanche, Cape Town psychologist in an article published on Health24.
“No marriage is ever completely affair-proof. People get married for different reasons, they can move apart, they can lose sexual interest in one another, they can feel weighed down by domestic drudgery – the list is endless.”
“Sometimes it really isn’t something that one of the partners has done or not done – it is quite possible that if someone is a serial philanderer, their behaviour might not have all that much to do with the spouse at all.”
“And then it is also not a good idea to watch every move your spouse makes jealously. People do need a bit of private space. In fact, obsessive watchfulness could actually make your spouse feel uncomfortable enough to consider leaving of their own accord – whether there is someone else on the scene or not.”
“People have to decide to make a commitment to each other and then they should be prepared to make an effort in order to make things work.”
But there are certainly things that could put marriages at risk. But that doesn’t mean to say that everyone will go ahead and get involved with someone else if given the chance.
Read the full article on Health24 .
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