” Before I touch you, I must respect you like my mother, protect you like my sister and look out for your best interest like my baby – after all, that’s what I call you when I want you,” says Enkay, in his article published on Bella Naija.
In this article, he outlines some of the mistakes women make in sexual relationshups. Enjay, also outlines the role a man should play in a relationship with his partner.
He adds that men have “failed to realize that the significance of our masculinity does not lie in how many girls we can dis-virgin but rather the honor we can bestow upon one. We fail to understand that the purpose of our strength and dominance is to defend and protect not to attack and destroy.”
He makes the following points:
1. Set your personal standards
A lady who lives from her principles would not change her principle to have or keep a man. She’s doesn’t need to sleep with a man to have or keep him.
2. Why are you making excuses for him…again?
Before you allow a man do to you privately what can affect you publicly, he must first of all acknowledge you publicly as the woman he respects and loves. If he can’t do that, why you are still with him?
3. Why are you looking for something in a bag of nothings?
Why are you willing to marry a jerk/stay in a relationship with him on the basis that you already wasted a couple of years in a relationship with him?
4. You’ve gotta think before you have his baby!
If you are having sexual intercourse, you are potentially making a baby. You are filing an application. As soon as he ejaculates into you, the application is submitted and the outcome of that process is no longer left to you or him but to the Department of Conception. And if they approve it, you become pregnant whether you want it or not. Is this really a man you want to have babies with?
5. Why are you under pressure?
Sometimes we are driven by those voices of ignorance that may have come from people we love, so we try hard to get into a relationship and make it work.
Hopefully, some of the points he makes will resonate with you.
Talk about it
What do you think? Do you think this thought-provoking article is spot-on, and women should set high standards and walk away if the men in their lives don’t meet it? Or is he being unrealistic about relationships between men and women, and those who listen to him will likely end up alone?
