This leads me to monogamy:
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Is the real question: “Is it normal to find other people attractive while in a committed relationship with another person possible? “
Yes!
Absolutely!
You will always find other human beings attractive. You will notice their physiques, smiles, the way they smell, how funny they are and how much you have in common with them. This is natural.
As human beings we know when we are physically attracted to someone other than our partner, but unlike when we are hungry, or need to use the bathroom we ignore our biological urges and desires when we are attracted to someone.
We rationalize and bargain with nature by telling ourselves that wanting to exchange phone numbers, spending time together and accidently bumping into the person whom we are attracted to is innocent behavior because we are in love with our mate.
So before we know it, having lunch with our co-worker turns into having dinner; having dinner turns into overnight sex escapades-and finally we are asking ourselves how did this happen, I would have never knowingly and willingly cheated on my mate.
When we are in denial about feeling sexually attracted to someone other than our mate, this is what leads to cheating. When we admit that we are attracted to another person this gives our brain the opportunity to move this information from our primitive emotional brain to our logical rational brain; in order to choose the behavior that is in the best interest of our highest and best self.
When we are hungry or feel the urge to use the bathroom, we don’t argue with nature. We don’t pretend that the urge to use the bathroom is a fragment of our imagination because we don’t want to have an “accident.”
But this so-called accident is only bound to happen if we ignore the biological urge we feel that tells us that we need to use the bathroom. We start looking for rest stops or saving the information in the computer to hurry to the bathroom.
When it comes to matters of the heart and soul; most human beings refuse to acknowledge that when nature calls us; we have a choice on how, where and when to answer the call-but Mother Nature will not be ignored. When you are hungry you eat. When you need to empty your bladder you find a rest room.
When you are in a committed relationship with someone you love and you find someone else physically or psychologically attractive you admit it to yourself and limit your time and space with this person. Don’t pretend that you weren’t staring at their body.
Don’t pretend that you are not calling to ask a question that you already know the answer to. Don’t look for flaws in your mate as an “excuse” to have sex with another person. I don’t know of any documented circumstances where a person’s tongue, penis, buttocks or vagina was “accidently” intertwined.
It is natural to be attracted to another person; however it is unnatural to be a liar.
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One Comment
Brain controls the whole body, same apply to emotional and sexual ability.If you love your partner and respect him/her, there is nothing of having MCP.Most cases frustrations defeat application of common sense and brain stops thinking. Intoxication of the body lead to emotional which most men and women look for temporary confort.