I’m a 33 years old man and I’m dating a 52 years old lady. Actually, I am the same age as her first-born child. She is a nurse and lives in the Free State and I live in Tshwane.

We have not met in person - we started out as pen pals and so far we have only shared our photos. I’m not sure what to do about this relationship - whether it’ healthy or not because we are consenting adults, or whether we could potentially harm each other. I am divorced.

This lady calls me regularly to tell me how much she loves me. And she wants me to visit her so we can see each other in peron. I am afraid to visit her, and am especially concerned about our diferences in age.  Please help.

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