In this letter to the OneLove web site team, a reader who recently broke up with her married lover explains how emotionally painful it is to break the sexual network.
She also wonders if she did the rightΓö¼├í thing for herself,, especially as her married lover was very good to her.
Do you think she made the right decision by breaking off the relationship? Here is her letter:
I’m a 28-year old professional woman and last week I broke up with my married lover and I’m wondering if I made a big mistake.
I knew from the beginning that he would not leave his wife and two children for me. But I love him and he was very good to me. He did not make promises that he could not keep. And when I was with him, he made me feel special, like he really loved me.
But I want someone who loves just me; who wants to marry me and have children and he can’t provide that. So I broke up with him.
He’s very hurt by the break-up, because he thought our relationship was going well. And I feel mean and selfish for hurting him like this.
I’m also hurting from the break-up and can’t seem to stop crying. There are days when I╬ô├ç├┐m tempted to phone him to tell him I’m very sorry and can he forgive me and take me back.
Do you think I made a mistake by breaking up a relationship that worked in its own way? Also keep in mind that the pool of single men available in my town is very small, so I fear thatΓö¼├í I doomed myself to being single and lonely by refusing to share a man.