Are you or your partner having sex with more than one person? Do you know if you are having sex someone who is having sex with someone else, who is having sex with someone else? Who else might be in that network?

And if you could choose, would you really have any sexual contact whatsoever with the someone else who your partner has sex with? These are very scary thoughts, aren’t they?

To find out more, read this article, developed by Lusweti, the OneLove campaign partner in Swaziland.

The reality is that many people are, in fact, having sex with more than just their partners. Public health practitioners have coined this practice Multiple and Concurrent sexual Partnerships or MCPs.

Research has shown that this practice has become so rampant in out society it has actually become normal. People have very interesting excuses for having sex with more than one partner at the same time, but for purposes of this discussion, I will pick just one; having sex with different partners as a sense of security.

A study by Lusweti on MCPS reveals that we begin additional relationships out of fear that our partners might be cheating on us and having additional partners give them a sense of security.

In essence, what this means is that even when we know that our partners have other partners, leaving them is not an option but we would rather have extra sex partners. What is alarming though is that even in this situation, condom use is still not an alternative.

Swazi hip-hop artist and OneLove Ambassador Thamsanqa Sibandze,

Local hip-hop artist and OneLove Ambassador Thamsanqa Sibandze, aka KrTC, considers this a silly misconception. “If you are having issues with one why add more?” he says.

KrTC feels rushing to have another partner will not solve the problem but will make it worse. For him, this is a cowardice solution to a problem.

He believes we need to talk out our problems as couples. For him, it boils down to the quality of the communication in the relationship.

“The minute you realize your self worth, you will know that it is naive to make a priority someone who only has you as an option,” he said.

KrTC considers it abnormal to be in such a situation. For him such relationships are a reflection of a low self esteem; guys wanting to be perceived as “THE MAN” and women feeling under pressure to get a man.

He refers to this act as “a social abomination that has become a social norm.” KrTC believe that MCPs are the product of moral decadence.

The level of moral decadence has reached alarming rates and certain practices that were once abominations are now social norms. Hence some people would much rather live in the circumstances they have been given than to use the power they have to change them.

People have learnt to be comfortable in their discomforts. He says we need to learn to respect our selves and stick to what is right. “Breathing through your nose is no hassle because it is the right thing to do. Like wise in this case sticking to one partner should come naturally because it’s the right and safe thing to do. If we cannot stick to one partner for the moral reason, then we need to learn to do it for ourselves. To protect ourselves.” he says.

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