The translation of the above message is that "having another sexual partner is not liberation. Talk to your lover so that you can find ways to sexually satisfy each other."
During our research on multiple concurrent partnerships, one of the trends that emerged was that of women who were having more sexual partners as revenge on their cheating partners.
“Maybe he thinks that after marrying me I can’t fall in love with another man. Right now I have two and if a third and fourth comes my way I am not going to say “No.”" one Zambian woman whose husband has more sexual partners said in an interview.
“When my husband comes home, start shouting as usual and then sleep without sex because he has been drained by his girlfriends, I don’t get worried as I will have already had sex with my lover,” a South African woman said, explaining why she has multiple concurrent partners.
Talk about it
What are the consequences of having multiple concurrent partners as revenge on your cheating partner, and to get the love and sexual satisfaction that he/she is not giving you? Share your views by leaving a comment at the end of this post.
Acknowledgements
The poster was developed by Phela Health and Development Communication in Lesotho. The article is based on a research report titled “Multiple and Concurrent Sexual Partnerships in Southern Africa: A Ten Country Research Report.”
One Comment
My marriage ended because of my partner having multiple concurrent partners. I relate to the pain these women feel, and even though the thought occurred to me frequently that I should give him a taste of his own medicine, I just couldn’t. It isn’t my value system – I was taught that two wrongs don’t make a right and I am a one-man woman, even now. It took me long to get over my former partner and I started dating only a year ago, but what I’m finding is that men don’t want to commit to one partner at all in South Africa. I think that runs across cultures and it is anecdotal evidence based on my experience but I’m beginning to despair that I will never find a trustworthy man.