During our research on multiple concurrent partnerships, many women said that they got more sexual partners when they realised that the partner they thought was faithful to them was cheating.
A Tanzanian woman says: “Maybe he thinks that after marrying me I can’t fall in love with another man. Right now I have two and if a third and fourth comes my way I am not going to say “No.”
Rage that the husband is having unprotected sex with his new women, and the fear that he may bring the HIV home, also fuels the revenge affairs.
“Why should I use a condom when he is making babies with other women? Clearly he’s not using condoms either, and if I become infected by HIV, I would be very happy to pass the virus to all his girlfriends through him,” a OneLove reader has also said.
Talk about it
So what do you think? Is it wise to take on more sexual partners if your main partner is cheating on you? Who gets hurt when you decide to have multiple concurrent partners as revenge on your cheating partner? Is it your partner as intended? Or are you the one at risk of further hurt? Are there other people who you do not expect them to get caught in this problem who do get hurt?
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Infidelity is one of the most devastating thing that can happen to a person in a relationship, thus paying close attention to the warning signs of a cheating partner can help you deal with the problem early on.
Hi Michael
Some people say they didn’t see the affair coming. What are some of the early warning signs?
I think being cheated on would be the ultimate betrayal. I finished reading a great book on infidelity titled, “Love Tag” by Peter Shianna. I got a good idea of what it must feel like to be cheated on. I hope I never have to go through the pain of having my husband cheat on me.
i think in such a situation one should always be alert and notice to any sign of cheating in their partner.
I love my country and voted for Mr Zuma as my president, in my native language(Sotho) e kojwa e sale metsi- you cant band dry stick, this have to be a solid foundation of SA politics that any high profile individual that behave like a abnormal person be remove from the position with immediate effect, this is happening not only with the president, well known persons also get away with murders. This is bad for our freedom that our fathers fought for it, whites protected it from such anomalism. The fore with due to the presidents respect I will step down to show my regret for what I did. If no solid foundation set, this country is going to join our neighbour Zimbabwe - Mugabe and become Southafrica-you cant tell the ruling
u are so right,bit the is no use crying over spilt milk,he is the president and he will continue until the next 4 years,what he does is totally unacceptable and inhuman.our fathers are losing dignity because of him and surprise me most is that how people can do for friendship,i mean selling ur daughter to your own friend,thats crazy,but not that we ladies do something about that.