One of the issues that the first season of the Fema TV Talk Show in Tanzania dealt with was how alcohol reduces a person’s good judgement, with the result that he/she may end up having sex with multiple partners.
The show had a case study of a heavy drinker show said that he drinks the local brew daily because it makes him feel good.
He says he is drunk, he feels very sociable and his desire to have sex multiplies. As a result, he does whatever he can to find a sexual partner.
Studio guests included a comedian, who plays a drunk on TV, a Femina youth ambassador, a former alcoholic who has been dry since 2002 and a university student.
All guests agreed that alcohol leads to impaired judgment and you stop thinking about your relationship or about safe sex. Therefore it can lead to unsafe sex. One guest said that the more you drink, the more attractive the people you meet at the bar start to look.
During our research on multiple concurrent partnerships in Swaziland, older women also said that drinking and using drugs weakens one’s judgement, making peple to have sex with partners they would have rejected if they were thinking clearly.
“… in most times alcohol and drugs make you end up having sex with many people,” said 29-year old woman who works in a factory.
A 29-year old man from Shiselweni in Swaziland says: “What I have to say is about what happens in bars; you find that they are drinking and eventually get drunk. The alcohol will go down there and then you’ll find that they end up having unsafe sex because when you are drunk you hardly think of using a condom. And then you get this virus, because it is there.”
Talk about it
Does alcohol affect your decision to have sex? Share some tips in the comments section of this post on how someone who enjoys an occassional drink can make sure he/she does not have sex with someone he/she would not have chosen normally, and does not have unsafe sex.
The previous season of the Fema TV Talk Show was broadcast from July 2008 to January 2009. Negotiations are in progress to develop the next season of the show.
4 Comments
Please I would like you to send me the reply. Since 2004 I have never have sexual intercourse with a woman. Will it affect my health since Iam a middle age man. By the way I feel strong everyday. Please I need your advise
Hi Cisse
It’s hard to give definitive advice on the information you have provided.
The first issue is why you have not had sexual intercourse for so long.
Is it a physical health issue? Or it could be a psychological issue?
It could even be because you are stressed by life and work, or just an issue of missed opportunities. Whatever the reason, you need to find out for sure, if you don’t know.
Talk to your doctor or health worker, and find out if physically everything is in order.
Once the physical concerns are ruled out, your doctor/health worker will also chat to you about your life, to determine how stressful it is, and if that is having impact.
Assuming that your health and psyche are OK, and your reasons for a long period of abstinence are because a) you haven’t met someone who really turns you on or b) you do meet people who attract you but they are not equally attracted to you, then NO, GOING WITHOUT SEX FOR ALMOST 5 YEARS WILL NOT HARM YOUR HEALTH. But it would be nice if the situation could be remedied quickly:-)
OF COUSE DAMARIA PREVENTION IS BETTER THAN CURE.I thinkppl imagen hiv n aids as in its in anatha planet…e.g we do knw they exist bt we knw we never gonna wake up one day in anatha planet its like ppl they some how sure its never gonna happen to them,look around u ppl get tested in time its never too too late thanks…
ABSTAIN IT IS THE RIGHT THING TO DO…ITS EASY