Take this poll to clarify in your own mind what love means to you.
You can also download, print and take the quiz with your partner so that you find out what love means to you individually, and compare results as a couple.
Do you know what love means to your partner, asks Ms Reformed SugarBaby in her post, Ask The Hard Questions. Ms SugarBaby blogs about her journey to reclaim her independence after breaking up with her sugar daddy.
She says:
I should have asked him what love meant to him. I should have had a discerning & discriminating heart. When we hear the words “I love you” we tend to take our personal meaning of love and attach it to our lover. We know what love means to us but hardly stop to ask our lovers what it means to them.
When “I love you” was spoken it saddens me to say I began thinking with my heart and abandoned my head. Looking back now I should have been skeptical. How is it possible to really love someone in two months? Was he really sincere or did he smell a “love” insecurity in me somewhere hidden?
Take this poll to tell us what love means to you.
To compare your views of what love is with your partner’s views:
1. Download and print the quiz
what-does-love-mean-to-you-and-your-partner-quiz
2. Print two separate copies for you and your partner
3. Take the quiz
4. Ask your partner to take the quiz
5. Compare your results and discuss what these results mean to you as a couple.
5 Comments
Thanks for this. Very interesting – love is about give and take and forgiveness too. Lol – if it meant financial security to me, I’d be in a mess!!!!
In an ideal world, I think love is about faithfulness and fidelity, in which case HIV/Aids would be a minimal problem. But here in SA, men especially seem to be using tradition as a shield to hide behind for their promiscuity. Unfortunately this attitude has affected and infected women, and some of them are also now practising a promiscuis lifestyle in an effort to have “equal rights”. I am currently without a partner and although I’m searching, I’m a bit afraid to give my heart to someone who may not be faithful to me – a very dangerous position to be in these days.
Love is the Security for me and faithfullness to loyalty.
The thing is i’m full of love anf love to be loved with respect.
“I Love you”. I don’t hear these words near enough from my wife of 2 years now. In fact, I’ve really started to realize that our versions of “Love” may be very different than each others.
You see, she grew up in a family that while there was “love” it wasn’t a cherished family trait, it was just another attribute thrown in there with “feed me”, “Clothe me”, and obey. Now I’m no christian by any stretch, but I did grow up with a solid foundation from my Father and Mother, and God. It didn’t matter if i agreed with the God part, it was always there. Now as a 43 yr old man, husband, and father to the most beautiful 1 yr old boy – I struggle with my relationship with my wife daily. We don’t fight, we are pretty ok financially, but she doesn’t give me love in the way I was brought up to understand it and its tearing us apart.
She holds her feelings back on everything, doesn’t communicate, and continues to build walls between us. Maybe its because i have no balls anymore, and try too hard to make her happy (though I never thought there was such a thing) Maybe its because of our different upbringings, but no matter what the reason – its killing me.
I want her to turn off the TV, get off the iPhone, and realize that some of our best years with our kids are passing her by quickly. She was raised in front of a TV, she was raised as the youngest, and mostly only child in her household. I am the eldest of 6. Love meant, traditions, support, cooperation, faith, and knowing that no matter what we could always go to bed at night with each other knowing that we could depend on anyone in our family. I want that for my family, very badly. How can I get her to break down her rough and rugged exterior, how can I tell her shes being bossy, rude, and inattentive to our son, how can I ask her to realize and live for the love of our family – and not the convenience of it? I show and tell her I love her every day, only to get little to no reaction, response, or support of the same in return. I thank God for my son every day, and with a second child on the way in March, I’m hoping that (short of turning off the phone and disconnecting the TV’s in the home) that somehow I will get thru to her the time that she is wasting watching “Law and Order” with our 1yr old staring at the TV with her. Someone, please help me figure something out. Please.
Thanks.
@clicker – Sorry to hear about your troubles. Here is a resource that you may find very useful.
http://maritalhealing.com/conflicts/distantspouse.php
Most important, I think you and your wife should work with a counsellor to try to actively resolve the issue. Your wife needs to be involved in the resolution process, because she is a full partner in the marriage and this is an issue that affects her and which asks for behaviour change from her.
I’m not sure where you are based, but if you are in South Africa ( which is where I am), then you could consult the Family and Marriage Association of South Africa, which empowers people to build, reconstruct and maintain sound relationships in marriages and families.
http://www.famsa.org.za/contact.asp
As this is a non-profit organisation, the counselling services will be more than having to consult with a private practice practitioner. The organisation is national, with regional offices, so there should be an office near you.
If you are not based in South Africa, but are within the 8 other countries involved in the OneLove campaign(Lesotho, Swaziland, Namibia, Malawi, Zambia, Zimbabwe, Tanzania and Mozambique) let me know which country and I’ll source the contact details of an organisation that provides a similar service to FAMSA for you, if there is one.
Good luck, and I hope that you and your wife do manage to work your way closer to each other.