A couple of weeks ago the OneLove web site asked its readers: “What would you if you suspected that your partner was cheating on you.”
The question brought out many responses, but the underlying theme was that communicating openly with your partner is a very important part of a relationship.
One reader also argued that men hate to express their feelings when they are in a relationship.
Some men would even choose to have an afffair than tell their partner what is wrong, he said.
What do you think?
Happily married said: “First of all, merely ‘suspecting’ and not knowing for sure implies that someone is not communicating somewhere; someone is not doing what they’re supposed to do or is doing something that is not expected of them (which of course bring us back to lack of communication).”
Katey said: “We try and exercise communication with my partner. how else would you know that there is something wrong in the relationship. I trust that he wont cheat and that is a choice that I made. He knows I trust him and respect him. I don’t see a reason that he would cheat.”
Many other readers also touched on the importance of communication. But it was Senchez noted a very important factor when couples communicate. He said:
I think the one thing that most people or couples don’t understand is what exactly do we mean by the word COMMUNICATION.
As a guy I know that most men lack and hate to express themselves and show emotions, even when they are going through turmoil in their relationships.
They then resort to go out and find that one thing that they afraid to voice out to their partners, and we all know what’s that…..SEX with other woman.
I think its very important for us to know our partners, be able to detect when they not happy and then open the platforn to communicate.”
Talk about it
Do you agree with Senchez that men and women communicate differently, and men hate to express their feelings? If you agree with him, how do you communicate with your partner to find out issues that are important to you both in your relationship?
One Comment
I agree with Senchez, men and women do communicate differently. Because on a basic level, We are’ wired’ up in a different way. Generally men react with logic first, whereas women, by their emotions.
Men find it difficult to express their feelings, they just find it so hard to talk about how low they might be feeling, or problems they are experiencing. For a man to show emotion, like crying could be thought of as a sign of weakness.
Women wear their emotions on their sleeve. They find it so much easier to open up, even to virtual strangers.
Effective communication between men and women in a relationship, will only come about when they actually listen to what each other are saying. Respect also plays a big part in communication. If there is a lack of respect, then you will not give your time to listen and respond to each another.
Agree to disagree. Show mutual respect by listening to each others point of view, and talk about your problems without resorting to one of you trying to control the situation.
If you can do all those things then you will have real communication in a relationship!