“Don’t you trust me?” your partner may ask if you suggest that you use a condom during sex, especially if he/she is a long-term partner and you have either promised to be faithful to each other, or your being faithful is expected. Reader Nkuli Mngcungusa has a response to that.
She says:
Using a condom is not a trust or mistrust issue; it’s actually a protection issue. I think if our people can get and understand that part, then we’d actually reduce the statistics on “innocent” people ‘inheriting’ the disease.
A guy friend of mine said that all men cheat, if not all men, then it has to be 90% of them. How then do you deal with such statistics without accusing your man? It’s a very fine and thin line that our people need to work out for themselves.
I normally say, “I might love you, but I love myself more” and once people can get into that habit of loving themselves more than their partners, they’d be able to protect themselves without it feeling like betrayal.
Talk about it
Do you think Nkuli has the right of it, and we should learn to make condom use a solely protection issue, rather than a treating it as a trust issue?
2 Comments
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