Thank you for joining us for today’s blog party here on the OneLove web site.
So what is a blog party?
The OneLove web site team issued an invitation, asking people to write about sex, relationships and multiple concurrent partnerships.
Those who responded to the call were asked to publish their posts on their blogs, and to encourage discussions on the issue of multiple concurrent partnerships with their own communities.
Today we bring the discussions back to the OneLove web site, by giving you links to the participants’ posts. Please click through to read the articles, and leave comments to add your voice to the discussions.
And many thanks to the people who wrote the articles, the readers who commented on them to add to our discussions, and those who forwarded the articles to their friends or posted links to the stories on Twitter.
Why Not A Rent Boy?
In this post, Ms Lona-Lee, an older woman looking for love through online dating, explains why she would not have a sexual relationship with “a rent boy.”
She says :
“Ms Lona is a romantic at heart, and if in the course of the late afternoon of my life I met and fell in love (mutually) with someone much younger, I might take a chance and give in to my doddering desires. But one thing I know for sure about moi, my delicate romantic heart would not survive reducing any liaison with a male – fountain of youth aside – to a mere financial transaction, one more than likely based on economic power (mine) rather than the power of love.”
Condom Plan B
The women on Female2Female discuss why a woman should carry condoms in her purse.
Tessa says:
“Being married and not looking for or interested in outside action it does not rule me out. What protection do I have in the dreaded instance of a rape attack? Nothing! I usually have a carrier bag to help preserve the planet but nothing for my own protection from HIV. I’ve never even thought about let alone owned a condom designed for women. Quite frankly I’m too concerned about what my colleagues/friends/family will think if they should see a condom in my bag.”
If A Man Can Do It, So Can I
In this post, a young professional woman who chooses to remain anonymous lets us into her world, which inhabited by Friend 1, who has waited over a year for the man she’s in love with to leave his wife, Friend 2, who is in a relationship with a married celebrity who never goes out in public with her, and Friend 3, who has a partner to buy her expensive purses, shoes and other goodies. She also has two partners in Durban and Cape Town to give a good time while she’s in those cities.
Then there is me, the party animal who loves a good time and good company, I broke my virginity quite late in my life and never liked sex much, she says.
“One fateful night a night of uncontrolled drinking spree, I ended up having unprotected sex with my second partner who I’d been with for only a month. It’s amazing how alcohol can impair your thinking. Eight months later I tested HIV positive.”
And for those who would like to take part in our blog parties, the next blog party will take place on Friday August 7th. So start blogging about multiple concurrent partnerships and send the links to admin@onelovesouthernafrica.org.
If you prefer your story to remain anonymous, email it to us and we will make sure that it is published as part of the blog party without disclosing your identity.
Talk about it
Please share your views about any of the stories in the blogfest at the end of this post.
29 Comments
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I feel very sorry for the people who are into the 3 part of the story.I think everyone should take care before taking any step.
@telugu news – you are right; caution would be good. The challenge is that when it comes to love and relationships, reason sometimes becomes a stranger.
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This is my first time i visit here. I found so many interesting stuff in your blog especially its discussion. From the tons of comments on your articles, I guess I am not the only one having all the enjoyment here! keep up the good work.
We should be meticulous and particular in all the advice we give. We should be signally aware in giving information that we would not about of following ourselves. Most of all, we ought to escape giving counsel which we don’t follow when it damages those who woo assume us at our word.
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My first time here too, and I have to say you have a great site, I love the honesty of the articles…keep up the good work.
“One fateful night a night of uncontrolled drinking spree, I ended up having unprotected sex with my second partner who I’d been with for only a month. It’s amazing how alcohol can impair your thinking. Eight months later I tested HIV positive.”
This is so sad. Thanks for sharing this, even if it stops one person from having unprotected sex it was a worthy post
There is still so much ignorance concerning HIV and sexually transmitted diseases. You may think I am being monogamous, therefore my partner is..sadly this is so Wrong. Always be safe when engaged in sexual activity.
Thanks for your blog. Today, everyone has to be so careful.
It’s really a place where i found the people talk truly. This may be informative but one should understand the reason why it is discussed here.
Thanks
Collin paul
I think women should always carry condoms, I never thought about it in those circumstances though. I think there is this idea about safe sex, that because I’m a man and the woman is allowing me to have sex than I have to be the one to carry protection. Well it’s equal rights, right? We are all responsible for safe sex, not just the guy, not just the woman. It should not fall on one or the other.
everyone should carry a condom at all times – you never know when…and sometimes, they’re the best times!
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I love this thing called a blog party. At first I thought it was kinda geeky, but now I am definitely into it. I agree with the above that you should always carry condoms with you…
Part of the fun of the party is getting to talk to women. I really appreciate your advice. Hope to see more.
This is interesting. This is often where people struggle. They react to what they think the problem is. Instead, seek to understand more about why you think there’s a problem.
I wonder if a condom will really be of much use when raped… Depends on the situation I guess… It never came to my mind to carry one for this reason though!
I don’t know..you will have to ask Fergie or the player himself. None of us expect him to run around like a Tevez, or score goals like Ronaldo would week in week out, but there is a bare minimum that we expect from ALL of our players.
I came here by accident, but stayed here already 20 minutes. Must say you do a great job! Thank you for posting so many interesting things…
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Thank you for creating such a thoughtful and insightful blog. As we approach another Valentine’s Day (2011) and celebrate “love” it is important to remember all of the multitude of things that real love really involves.
I agree, safe sex and condoms the responsibility falls for both the female and the male. It boils down to “without the hat there is not birthday party” no condom no sex period. Great blogs post full of great comments.
Each one of us is responsible for is own safety in general and particularly regarding to sexually transmitted diseases. We should always wear a condom.
Great stories. I hope it will be an eye opener for those who still have unprotected sex so they choose to change for a better behavior before it is too late.
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This thing called a blog party is really interesting. Diferent posts, different experiences from different people…
It really gets you thinking…
Thanks for sharing!
Life is not all about sex, but sex is important in life.
I think everyone must take care before taking a move.
Thanks.