A study by Lusweti on multiple concurrent partners found that many people have additional partners out of fear that their partners might be cheating on them. Having additional partners give them a sense of security that they will never be alone, they said.
However, Swazi hip-hop artist and OneLove Ambassador Thamsanqa Sibandze, aka KrTC, says it’s a silly misconception that additional partners could provide security. “If you are having issues with one why add more?” he says.
KrTC feels rushing to have another partner will not solve the problem but will make it worse. For him, this is a cowardice solution to a problem. He says people need to talk out their problems as couples. For him, it boils down to the quality of the communication in the relationship.
“The minute you realize your self worth, you will know that it is naive to make a priority someone who only has you as an option,” he said.
KrTC considers it abnormal to be in such a situation. For him such relationships are a reflection of a low self esteem; guys wanting to be perceived as “THE MAN” and women feeling under pressure to get a man.
He refers to this act as “a social abomination that has become a social norm.” People have learnt to be comfortable in their discomforts. He says we need to learn to respect our selves and stick to what is right.
“Breathing through your nose is no hassle because it is the right thing to do. Like-wise in this case sticking to one partner should come naturally because it’s the right and safe thing to do. If we cannot stick to one partner for the moral reason, then we need to learn to do it for ourselves. To protect ourselves and our loved ones.” he says.
